How To Handle Criticism

Do you know how successful people handle criticism?

Do you know controlling our mindset helps to handle criticism better?

People want feedback for whatever they do, but consciously what they expect deep down within is praise, what they wish not to hear is criticism.

Criticism brings in awkwardness and it so happens because we face difficulty in handling disapprovals or negative feedback. 

The Person who criticizes must be doing it for reasons known to him or her. It all depends on your relationship with the person. Maybe at times their intentions are good, but they fail to put it across in the right way or they want you to learn things the hard way so that you learn from your mistakes or the person just wants to hurt you or let you down.

Whatever the reason or the intent of the other person is, the very first thing is that you have to keep your mind open to such feedback. Avoid getting into the ego defense mode or start arguing with the person. Yes, you are hurt and it must be conveyed in the right way to keep the relationship intact. At times you don't wish to keep the relationship intact, it's all your choice but deal with it rationally. It is rightly said ”Treat the person the way you want to be treated.” 

So let us quickly fix the concerns that bothers you

Be Gracious:- Even if you do not necessarily agree with the feedback or criticism, their investment in your growth and development is deserving so do not forget to ‘THANK them

Talk it out or just keep a distance:- This depends on who is criticizing you, we are mature enough to understand the difference between the right and the wrong person. If you feel the person is genuine and your well wisher please go ahead and get some more insights, but if you feel the person is not worth your time ignore and walk away.

Ask questions:- ​Asking questions will help you find out what exactly they mean and also helps you to put your feelings across in the right manner. For example, I value your feedback. Can you help me gain some more clarity on it? 

Avoid getting defensive:- If you feel you are right in what you have done, put it across in a calm and composed manner without hurting the other person, defensive or ego trip will spoil the relationship, avoid doing this unless the matter is not very serious. Maintain your dignity by not harming others or getting abusive. 

Remember:- Each individual thinks differently, you have to keep calm and do not take it personally if you feel things are going to get difficult just move on because your mental health is the first priority. Be rational and take feedback in a positive stride.

 

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